This week, Carolina touched on the topic of RECEIVING. So many of us work so hard every day and end up putting others over ourselves. It’s easy to push your wants and needs down and throw all of your energy into helping others. Sometimes we simply like this feeling of being "needed", like identifying as a "giver" or maybe it’s the way that we express our love. But in reality, this could hinder our ability to receive the good in our life and FEEL abundant.
Carolina spoke about losing her spark, even though so many new things were happening for her, and expressed that she felt she wasn’t allowing herself to open her heart to these amazing moments and truly be present with them. After stumbling upon a TikTok video that reminded her of the importance of feeling WORTHY, she started implementing practices and mindset shifts to welcome and receive the abundance around her. Let's dive into it!
Honoring the good times
If you identify as a perfectionist or struggle with your self-worth, when things get really good in your life, you might not allow yourself to truly honor them. You might worry that something bad is about to happen, or you might question yourself ... thinking "Who am I to deserve this? Something has to be wrong here". Or, you might just brush over the goodness and hyper focus on what isn't going well -- even if a lot is.
However, when good things come around -- whether it's love, compliments, a smile you receive from a stranger, feeling blossoming health, a great date night, a birthday celebration, a new haircut, a promotion, success in your career endeavors, etc -- that's when OPENING YOUR HEART is most important.
In these moments, it's essential to take a step back and truly appreciate all the goodness. Tell yourself: I DESERVE THIS. I am worthy of love, abundance, success, health. I am worthy of all good things in the world. These are the moments where you must open up your heart, affirm your worthiness and let yourself receive it.
A journaling practice for self love
One amazing way to open yourself up to receive is through a simple journaling practice. All you need to do is open up your journal to a blank page and write affirmations in the first half, and gratitudes in the second half. For example, I am powerful. I am magnetic. I am loved. I am enough.... I am grateful for my morning matcha. I am grateful I am abundant etc etc.
This practice is the perfect reminder to your subconscious mind that you are is worthy and deserving of the amazing things entering into your life.
While Carolina recommends doing this in the morning, you can also habit stack it with another habit you already have - for example, you can do it while you're drinking your morning coffee or matcha (it literally takes less than 5 minutes!).
You can do it in the middle of the day, during your commute, on a walk. It doesn’t have to be a regimented thing, life is about balance and finding ways to add to areas for growth, not cause you more stress.
something going well isn't a precursor to something bad happening
A lot of times, when something good is happening, we are not in a place where we are ready to receive it and welcome it because we believe we are not worthy of it. We may think: who am I to deserve this? Or you might think that the ball is about to drop and something bad is bound to happen. However, that is NOT a true fact.
What if instead you started asking yourself: Why NOT me? You are truly worthy of all the good in your life and you need to be able to soak it up. Additionally, according to the law of attraction - the more you are able to truly lean into appreciating the good and being grateful for it, the more you are aligning yourself with the energy of positivity and appreciation -- which in turn draws even MORE good things towards you.
good times and self sabotage
When wonderful moments roll around, if you don't truly feel WORTHY of the good in your life and don't allow yourself to welcome the good, what you might end up doing is SELF SABOTAGING. Something negative external of your might not happen -- but you might end up getting in the way of the good through self-sabotage.
Hence, working through self-sabotage is extra important here. Start understanding yourself and your patterns. What unhelpful habits, coping mechanisms, communication styles, or ways of being pop up that derail you from the version of you that you want to be? Observe how you might subconsciously feel drawn to them when things get good, and catch yourself! Instead, affirm that you are worthy of the good and that you CAN show up as your higher self in order to receive them.
ALL IN ALL...
Remember that you are inherently worthy and that when something good comes your way, by practicing gratitude and appreciation, you can call in even more goodness! You can listen to the full episode here:
With love,
Inner Growth
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